Single and Happy – Finding Contentment From Within With the Right Mindset

A lot of single people are dissatisfied with their lives. They
spend most of their time lamenting the fact that they are not in
a relationship, and the rest of their time looking for a
relationship. Thus, they become discontent, dissatisfied, and
tend to complain a lot. They consider their being single a major
disadvantage or shortcoming in their lives. In fact, their being
single somehow becomes their identity. It’s as if being single
has an actual bearing on who they are and how their lives turn
out. And the tendency is for them to feel like a victim of the
world, like the universe is really conspiring against them so
they would be unable to find someone to be with.

1. Change your perspective on singlehood. The real problem in
being single is having the wrong mindset. In truth, being single
does not and should not have a major effect on your life. You
should be able to find contentment and peace in yourself whether
you are attached or not. You should not let a relationship, or
the lack of it, be the anchor of your personality. And if you
used to be single, you don’t have to change yourself once you
become part of a relationship. You should have hobbies,
interests – a personality – that remains even when you
transition from being single to being part of a couple. Thus,
being single shouldn’t really bring a significant change in who
you are. Your being single does not, in any way, make you any
less valuable as a person. So you have to break free from the
mindset that your lack of a partner dictates who you are.

2. Confidence sells. If you are not some lonely, single person,
then who are you? Once you change your mindset and take away the
“singlehood label” you’ve placed on yourself, you can now focus
on getting to know who you really are without anyone to dictate
it for you. This way, you can focus on building and enhancing
your personality. The more you know yourself and the more you
expand yourself, the happier and more confident you will be. And
the more confident you are on your own, the more attractive you
will be to others. After all, nothing sells better than
confidence.

Subliminal messages can help you improve your confidence in
yourself. These are messages that are delivered to your
subconscious mind to change how it works. These messages can be
delivered with the use of subliminal videos and audio. Here are
some examples of subliminal messages that are beneficial for the
single, independent you:

I am independent and strong.
I have a high level of confidence in myself.
I am at peace with myself.
My happiness and contentment comes from within.

3. Live your life now. A lot of people put off their greatest
hopes and dreams for when they already get married. Their list
of goals start with getting married, and all other goals pale in
comparison. They think their lives will only begin once they
settle down. The truth is, there’s no need for that. You can
live your own life right now; in fact, you should do everything
you want to do while you still can. Once you get married, you
will have more responsibilities and less freedom.

4. Use your singlehood as motivation. Most married people don’t
really go out to explore and experiment in life anymore. They
have a dozen other things to spend their time on. Once you get
married, you’ll understand. But single people are not attached
to anyone or anything, so you can still explore and experiment
all you want. Instead of looking at your singlehood as a
negative thing, why not see it as a motivation to get more out
of life?

5. Your career is not the only option. Most people tend to
think that since they’re single, they might as well pour
everything they have into their careers. Focusing entirely on
your career will only make you see the large gaping hole of
singlehood in your life. Aside from that, if you focus too much
on your career, once something goes wrong at the office, you
won’t have a fallback anymore, and the more you will wallow in
self-pity over not having a partner to turn to in such tough
times. But if you have many things going for you, like your
career, a yoga class, a book you’re reading, a charity you
support, and so on, you won’t notice your lack of a relationship
much.

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