Saving Marriage and Relationship through solving the Problems

Saving  Marriage and Relationship through solving the Problems 

Many people go online in search of the solution to there ailing relationship and marriage without realising the fact that sustaining a successful and a romantic relationship is one of the hardest things to do in life. After falling in love and the ‘honeymoon’ period, we all have to keep on working on our relationships. This is because relationships bring up our deepest fears and insecurities. We can even think of relationship problems as our best opportunity to heal our personal issues. after our marriage there is need for couple to keep on working on each other so as to bring out the best in each other.Every relationship has it ups and down and so we all have to learn how to manage every occurring situation that can negatively affect our relationship.

       ➠➠➠Unexpressed Fear and Needs

Couples in the cause of relationship hide some vita thing for each other due to the fear of the unknown of what could happen if other partner get to know.every one has his own need. Out of our fear comes our needs and these create demands on our partners. If there is a problem in a relationship, one or more significant need is NOT being met. Interestingly this will be the same need that your partner also feels is lacking in the relationship. By identifying your unmet needs you can give this same thing to your partner and they will automatically begin to give this same thing back to you. It is even better if you can talk about your fears and needs with your partner in an emotionally mature way. Honest and heartfelt communication is the best way to save a relationship. It can take courage to express your feelings but this is the way forward in a relationship problem. Sometimes it takes time and the help of a third party to do this, so you might consider some counselling.As you communicate about your unmet needs and fears you will find that your partner shares them and any problems will then fall away.

          ➠➠➠Arguments 

Relationship fights are about who is going to meet the needs of the other person who is going to do this who is going to do that.learning to put and end to argument will help the couple in getting along with each other   Given that they are always shared by both partners, you can see how futile this is. To end an argument and prevent others occurring you must be willing to stop the fight over needs and think about what you could give to the relationship to make it better. Such leadership only comes when we recognize the cause of the fights and gain sufficient emotional maturity not to be triggered into anger and attack.

    ➠ Judgement✌

Our judgement about our partners are really our self judgments. We project out the parts of ourselves that we do not like on the people around us. What are you judging in your partner? What annoys you about them? Perhaps they are always busy at work and you don’t feel they value you. If so,how much do you value yourself and how much quality time do you give to yourself. by judging your partner.

By working on your own self-esteem  you will become more attractive to your partner. After all, they fell in love with you because of the positive qualities they saw in you – find these again in yourself, embody them with all your senses and start giving them once again. you will become more attractive to your partner. 

         ➠➠ ➠Spirituality☝

If you have a spiritual or religious belief you can ask for help and guidance from God . At the core of all relationship problems is a loss of faith in our own spirit and divine, loving connections. In fact we are afraid of this much connection – afraid of a spiritual oneness where there is just love for ourselves, everybody and everything. It seems that we create our relationship problems to avoid accepting our true loving destinies. Any spiritual practice will help with re-connecting with our spirit and help us to find peace and love in our romantic relationships.

           ➠➠➠Love ♥

I assume you first got together with your partner because you felt so much love for them. At that time you both put aside your fears and needs and discovered unconditional love. Being human means that those fears often return but we can heal them best with a partner providing we are willing and brave enough to go into those areas of pain in our mind that we have hidden away.We avoid expressing our pain because we don’t want our partner to see what we perceive as a weakness – we fear they will reject us and leave us, and yet if we don’t express them the relationship is at great risk. Therefore a willingness to open our hearts and just become more authentic will always reveal the truth in a relationship and allow both partners to grow and take their lives forward.

So what is it that is holding your relationship back? Now is the time to grasp the nettle and open your heart. Feel into your own pain and hidden insecurities and realize that these are also in your partner, but probably cleverly hidden by compensatory behavior. Your partner needs your help and you currently have more emotional awareness. They need your forgiveness for any failings and your emotional courage to inspire them to healthier own insecurities. Pour your love, appreciation and gratitude onto your partner and re-discover all those things that you adored about them in the beginning. learn to forgive and forget no matter what.

Time, patience, and perseverance

will accomplish all things.